12/04/2018

AM I A FEMINIST?


Feminism is something that has risen in awareness substantially in my lifetime. Since a young child, I was brought up within a close, tight-knit family in which if you had a problem with your computer you asked Dad; if you had an idea for a recipe, you told Mum - Grandma was the baker and Grandad was the gardener. I was taught to always cross my legs, to always be polite, and how to bake and sew. If you ask anyone, they'll most likely call our little situation very 'traditional' and, for a lot of my teenage years, whilst going through the motions of 'finding myself' and noticing who I am, I started to recognise my own 'traditional' ways.

I've never been the type of girl to shout swears left right and centre, I'm not particularly adhered to alcohol and, since having a boyfriend, have found contentment with being 'under someones wing'. I've lived in an environment where the male figure is the breadwinner and, believe it or not, I was actually only the 2nd female in my family to pass my driving test. But that begs the question: Does that make me against the idea of powerful women and thus feminism? NO! Not at all. And this is what I want to put across.

I aspire to successful women - the likes of Lana Del Rey, Zoella (yes), Giovanna Fletcher, Sammi Maria, and many more. The idea of being a 'Girl Boss' and ignoring gender stereotypes is something that I embrace. Think of this: I am a girl who adores baking and sewing (typically 'Girly' activities) but I also love nothing more than a rough around in the garden flower bed, raking out weeds. But of course, I understand - this doesn't instantly make me appear someone who is a feminist but, the truth is, that's not how I want to be perceived.

As popular and perhaps politically correct as it is to be a 'feminist', my growing up has not only made me realise that I am traditional in my ways, but that it's okay to be who you are. I am 'pro-women'. I see a woman as an CEO and I don't think twice. I attended schools with equal gender teachers, and I see female doctors and it doesn't phase me. These women are doing their jobs and it doesn't even cross my mind that anyone is superior or inferior. And here's the thing, as much as I look at my aspirations and see myself as a mother with children, who cleans the house and cooks, then greets my husband home from a day's work, I don't think that either of us in that situation would be the inferior one. If you're doing what you want to do, and you're doing your best, then that's amazing.


Equal pay, women's rights, voting, and everything in-between will always be supported by me. I'll stick up for a woman at any time of the day - whether that is myself or someone else. But, I'm starting to decide that belief in these things doesn't mean I have to stick a label on my forehead that says 'Feminist'; that's not me, and that might not be what I ever am.

I spoke to Charlotte from Chxrlotte Rose about this and found that I'm not the only person that feels this way. Charlotte described to me that, like I feel, she too doesn't label herself as a feminist but has a huge support for equality. Here's what Charlotte said:

"By definition feminism is about women's rights and equality. However, the word feminism has now almost changed in definition, I feel. More and more I see people claiming to be feminists but then act in a way that is the exact opposite. Feminism now seems to have become about bashing men and shops bringing out t-shirts with “female forever” and “the future is female”. Feminism is supposed to be about equality, which is what I support, how could you not want equal rights. As a woman, women's rights are incredibly important to me. But the word feminist? It’s become so skewed and left a bad taste in my mouth that I just don't want to use it. I even saw an article the other day slagging off women who feel the way I do, why? I'm for equal rights, I'm for women, I'm for everyone, but I don’t need a label for that. Nor do I have to like a word to be an advocate for women's rights, human rights or anything else for that matter. "

I really agree with what Charlotte said and I think it is rather important that we share these thoughts so that other people out there know that they aren't the only ones with this ideology. It's a difficult subject to tackle, but it's equally as important.

Here are some more women that I aspire to:
- Abbie from Abbie Nicole because she effectively saved me from someone who was feeling so alone and became my 'someone to talk to'.
- Kayleigh from An Enthusiasm For who has the most stunning photography and originality.
- Beth from Beth Waldron for her gorgeous home and fashion style.
- Natalie from Natalie Leanne because her posts open my eyes and make me think about life that little bit differently.
- My mum because she is the most amazing influence to have.
- My best friend Lucy because she has shown me how to face things head on after moving to lots of new places with an open mind and a confident heart.
- And, of course, Charlotte for helping me have confidence in this blog post.

Which women inspire you?
What are your views on Feminism?
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2 comments

  1. Unlike you, my growing up wasn't as traditional but I am totally with you and Charlotte in the way the meaning of feminism has changed and like you, I wouldn't label myself as a feminist. You've explained this really well and I wish more people understood this. In terms of inspirational women, Zoella is also one of mine and my mother and nana are also amazingly strong and empowering women who don't support stereotypes.

    Faye Jessica | fayejessica.co.uk

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    1. I think it's so important to have people that you aspire to; whether they're men or women, famous or friend, it's amazing to support others in general. Thank you so much for your lovely comment x

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