"Don't wait until you've reached your goal to be proud of yourself. Be proud of every step you take toward reaching that goal"
1. Enjoying a night out
I reckon if you met me, it would only take one of my Dad Jokes for you to realise that I'm no cool kid. And when I say I've been recently been enjoying a night out, I still have no shame in telling you that most of the time it doesn't stretch out any longer than 2am, at best. Nevertheless, I'm always up for so many more events now than I was a year ago, whether it's day drinking, nightclubbing, or parties - I'm a lot happier with how these things go now and, to be honest, have my fabulous friends to thank for that.
2. Going to blogger events
As well as my own personal events, I've been extremely lucky enough to be invited to quite a few Blogger/VIP Events lately courtesy of this little site and that Instagram page of mine. Seeing as though it's around a year ago since I went to my first blogger events, I'm delighted at how often I get to attend these events now. I have to agree, living in Newcastle is the key for me. Being from a village at home, I was never able or even considered for such events, but now I have so much more on my doorstep and I'm so grateful for that.
Wow, I didn't think I'd be saying this ever in a million year but I'm officially one of those girls who goes out wearing false lashes. I've always not been very risky with make-up and stayed safe with things but, once I started going wild and trying more adventurous eyeshadow looks (I know, hold me back right now), I decided it was worth jumping on the lash bandwagon too. And. I. Love. Them. I have naturally very straight and stumpy lashes so to be able to leave the house feeling like I have feathers on my eyes is fabulous.
4. Not underselling myself
Speaking of taking risks, when it comes to my content, I've recently been asking for budgets and not being scared to ask for the credit that I deserve. So far, I've experienced a few little knockbacks (expected) but, in some cases, been pleasantly surprised. It is a relief to finally be earning from my passion and, with what I do earn, be able to put more effort and care into my content.
5. Growing
Admittedly, this may be jinxing things but my blog and Instagram has been growing pretty healthily recently and I am so, so proud of that. I surpassed 1.5k on Instagram and it actually didn't fluctuate back down as it usually would. I have managed to post blog and insta posts pretty consistently, and feel good about the content that I'm sharing and I'm just generally having a good time with it all. There's something so fulfilling about putting effort into something and getting the feedback and results that I'm hoping for.
What are you proud of right now?
I had no idea what to expect upon my invite to visit Eden on their launch night. I knew that it was a replacement of the old night club, Tiger Tiger, but was a little bit confused by the way it was also advertising brunch. This only made me more eager to take a look around and, once my friends and I were through the door, it all began to make sense. The new Eden venue is a replacement of Newcastle's notorious Tiger Tiger, now with an elegant botanical theme, up to date vibes, and everything that a night out could ask for, all under one roof. So, here's what you need to know.
What's there?
Starting from the bottom, as soon as you walk in you are enticed by the botanical theme; flower walls, punny neon signs, and botanical wallpaper; the Garden of Eden theme is completely floor to ceiling. There are two entrances, the door on the left brings you into the bar area (which eventually leads through the restaurant at the back) and the door on the right is an entrance to the stairs, leading up to the clubrooms.
Upon entering the bar, they pride themselves on their very luxurious gin bar, fully equipped with efficient staff members and what feels like an endless drinks menu. There are plenty of places to sit and enjoy your drinks, from booths hidden away in private corners, to tables centred around very flamboyant trees.
Through the bar and into the restaurant, there is plenty of seating (again with a variety of different dining setups), each table laced with more botany vibes and crystal wine glasses all flickering in the light of the open kitchen and pizza oven.
On the first floor, I was surprised to find out how much I loved karaoke! You can hire out rooms for you and friends for as little as £5 an hour with pretty much any music you could ask for and on-hand drinks service at the push of a button.
Finally, the top floor is home to 3 new clubrooms. The first is my favourite, Genesis, which is the cheesiest, most extravagant mix of light up dancefloors, glitter balls, and 80s hits. With a huge window watching over Newgate Street, it looks fantastic at night. Through another door is the smallest club room, Forbidden, serving the R&B lovers, and finally, the main room is a new, open-plan venue that will host DJs and event, Hedonist.
The Food and Drink
While the place radiates such a luxurious vibe, you'll be pleasantly surprised to find out that the food is excellent value. At £9.50 for a 2-foot-long pizza that is so big, it's ideal for sharing, you really can't go wrong. My friends and I devoured 2 of these huge pizzas, as well as their tasty chunky 'Cheeky Eden Chips' and we have all already vowed to head back asap to get more of that delicious dough.
You will have definitely guessed by now what the theme is for the cocktail menu?! You got it - Floral. But fear not, the classics are all still listed there too, but you have to try their stunningly unique cocktail mixtures, mostly themed around botanicals. I recommend 'Petals & Peaches' and 'Le Bouquet'.
But wait, it might all sound to good to be true, but one of my favourite things is the happy hour between 5-9pm EVERY DAY! That's half-price drinks for 4 sweet hours. Not to mention their fizz Friday's, packages and masterclasses.
Upstairs...
As I previously mentioned, there are fabulously entertaining karaoke rooms on the first level which are available for booking. On the busy launch night, we did manage to get a booth on a walk-in basis, having to only wait around 10 minutes but I reckon the short wait really can't be guaranteed (especially because the sing-a-long is so addictive you will all want to stay in their forever).
Moving onto the rooms, I believe they've all just had a lick of the Eden theme, cleaner spaces, with more up-to-date decor, but still completely remain as a true geordie venue. If you're their on a weekend (or even the launch night) you'll still see the results of someone taking advantage of those happy hours or someone who won't stop singing even outside of the karaoke room. Nevertheless, it's great fun, a stylish nightclub, with the Geordie cherry on top.
I adore finding new, exciting places in Newcastle and I'm delighted that Eden has graced the toon', bringing with it what it has to offer but welcoming our culture with open arms. I already can't wait to visit again soon.
Have you visited Eden yet?
Having only opened in April, and being York's very first cat cafe, I definitely had to visit. When planning a trip to York with friends, we all instantly knew that The Cat's Whiskers would be on our list of things to do (amongst drinking cocktails). Obviously, being full of cats and cake meant that it was always going to be great but there are a few things that made this particular cat cafe stand out as one of my favourites.
The Atmosphere
So, here's how it works - you go into the introduction room first of all to confirm your booking, and you're given a little clipboard for any food orders to be noted on by staff. Once you've been let through the next door, you're onto the ground floor seating area with all the cats, but the feline friends don't stop there, there is also an upstairs with 2 more rooms of seating. As we went as a group of 5, we filled one of the upstairs rooms (after being advised that many of the cats were currently up there by one of the many lovely staff members).
The place was peppered with people all around, not too busy but a lot of the seats were taken up. I think it's always important that they don't overcrowd these places; for the cats and the guests. You're free to walk around anywhere, but I do certainly recommend getting there nice and early in order to ensure you get your favourite seat.
After petting cats till our hands were hairy and eating lots of delicious cake, we all sat back on our seats, classical music in the background, playing Cat Bingo. The staff were always happy to drop past and give us some facts about the cats wandering around us, or help us in any way we needed.
The Cats
In the area that we were sat in, it had already been claimed by Sprout (above) and Olaf (last image). Sprout was a huge, playful cat who laid splayed in front of the air conditioning unit but still seemed happy to play and amuse us all. Olaf, on the other hand, was a lot calmer and would slowly walk amongst the chairs to find a new spot to sunbathe in. He and his brother, Snowy (first image) are both deaf, meaning they have adorably loud meows that can be heard from anywhere in the cafe.
As well as those 3 cats, we had visits from the huge tom-cat, Bear. He was once living rough and looks like a guy who has been through quite a lot but now seems so relaxed in a place where he is very loved. Then there was the oldest girl, Coco, who was previously used for breeding and went through a stressful time but is now thriving and living her best life.
It's always wonderful to hear how these cats have been rescued and brought back around to a life they deserve. Going from living on the streets to being able to relax on whichever shelf, cat bed or cushion they wish - it's lovely that this cat cafe is doing their bit for the cats of York.
The Food
Obviously, I chose Red Velvet cake and it was one hefty slice. Luckily, Jamie and I shared our piece of cake so didn't end up overdoing the sweet tooth. My friends opted for the Gluten-Free Lemon and Poppy Seed cake which I hear was also delicious (and also hefty). Their cakes are made and sourced locally and there are great efforts to include an inclusive variety of options on the menu.
For drinks, a few of us opted for a simple lemonade because anything cold was amazing on a warm day. I can imagine if it was a cold winter's day we'd all have gone for a cuppa or a latte with our cakes because the coffees did look really good.
Unfortunately, the cafe does just serve sweet treats at the moment, so I wouldn't recommend going in expecting your lunch but, at the end of the day, we really just go for the cats.
Overall, a brilliant experience and this stands out as one of the best cat cafes I've visited because of the great size of the place and just how perfectly it fits into the York culture. Amongst the hustle of the shambles, it's lovely to take a break with some furry friends.
Which cat cafe is your favourite?
There's nothing more empowering, liberating, and refreshing than seeing the rise of body positivity and self-love on the platform most notoriously known for its fake-it-til-you-make-it attitude. Littered with posing, teeny-tiny bikinis, and photoshopped images, Instagram is a greenhouse for growing the best possible generation of brainwashed people. However, as big-time influencers, small-time influencers, and even brands start jumping on the self-love bandwagon, Instagram is slowly but surely becoming a lot more body positive.
Admittedly, there's still need to manually filter out this fake-ness as it seems to want to stick around like a bad smell, but with more and more people latching onto the confidence to feel better about their body, ditch the face-tune, and give themselves a goddam break, day by day, we're getting closer and closer to a more real selection of bodies on Instagram.
After deciding to post a picture on Instagram of her stretch marks, lifestyle and mental health Blogger Bekah received an amazing response. Exceeding 1k likes, Bekah's image left me wondering why. Why did that image blow up? Why Bekah uploaded it in the first place? Why there's a need for this kind of content? And, why everyone wasn't posting pictures of their stretch marks too?
ALICE: You’re a brilliant mental health advocate who has previously preached the importance of self-acceptance, publishing more ‘revealing’ posts in the past...
...why do you think that this particular post blew up so much for you?
BECKAH: I'd say this is the rawest post I've shared in regards to my body... While I've been very open about my struggles with mental illness in the past, I haven't really shared much of the struggles I've had with loving my body.
I suppose the majority of us have stretch marks - whether they only have a few or are absolutely covered in them, it's comforting to get a visual reminder that other people have them too.
ALICE: How did you feel when hitting publish for this post? Did you expect the reception that you were going to get?
BECKAH: When I hit publish, I was nervous but I was also weirdly excited. I have ALWAYS loved seeing stretch marks on other people, I think they are so beautiful, but it's taken me much longer to see the beauty of my own. It felt strangely liberating to share the picture. Lots of lovely people reached out and said that they were grateful to see another body that looked like theirs. That made all the anxiety about posting it totally worth it!
ALICE: Why now? Why did you feel the people of Instagram needed to see that picture at this point?
BECKAH: I think we're all learning to love our bodies and I just wanted to share my personal journey with that. I don't know about you, but I rarely see pictures of red and purple stretch marks online. While people have started sharing their gorgeous silver stretch marks, I think people are perhaps a bit more hesitant to show those raw red ones. I've had stretch marks for years, but the majority of mine have not faded to silver. I guess I just wanted to show others that you can love those more noticeable stretch marks too.
ALICE: You said you were going to try publishing more content like this - what kind of things do you have in mind?
BECKAH: I don't really have anything planned yet. I just want to continue learning to love my body and show others that they can learn to love theirs too, no matter what they look like. I'm looking forward to sharing more of the unedited, "imperfect" parts of life and hopefully learning to love all my wobbly bits in the process.
ALICE: Do you think there is a need/desire for these body-positive and more ‘real’ images on social media?
BECKAH: Definitely! When our social media feeds are so often filled with filtered and 'facetuned' images, I think it's important to be raw and real. It's so easy to compare yourself to the bodies you see on Instagram and forget that they may be edited. I rarely see bodies that look like mine on Instagram, and it has definitely made me feel insecure in the past. However, since sharing that picture and receiving so many messages, I now know I'm not alone and that is a huge comfort.
ALICE: The image blew up in a matter of hours - congratulations! Why do you think that this kind of content isn’t all over our feeds when it obviously does well?
BECKAH: Firstly, I think it's important to say that people shouldn't share this kind of content if they're only doing it in the hopes that it will gain likes and followers. That had absolutely nothing to do with why I posted my picture.
As for why it's not all over our feeds, I think it depends on who you follow. I do my best to follow a diverse range of people and as a result of that, I do follow some amazing body positive people.
However, not everyone shares this kind of content and there is no obligation to. Being vulnerable is SCARY, and learning to love your body is a journey. I'm not 100% there yet, in fact, most days I don't really like my body, but I'm learning to. Choosing to share that post was definitely part of my self-love journey, but you don't have to share your journey online if you don't want to.
ALICE: I completely love what you're saying here. I'm also on my own journey of self-acceptance right now but you don't see my Instagram flooded with images of my lumps and bumps. Why? Because I'm not ready yet. After all, this is a journey and I certainly don't love my body yet. I also completely agree with the idea of following the right people. I do try my hardest to fill my feed with images of reality and honesty. BUT, one thing does still frustrate me. If these things are so 'normal' why is there's such a fuss about it? I guess the answer may be that while it's ordinary in terms of health and when you ask the doctor, it's not what we're used to seeing on 'successful' people. We're slapped with images by the media of models and athletes, people to aspire to, and over the past few generations, these people have always been thin, 'perfect' bodies. Even after the era of Marylin Monroe, the media still seemed to struggle with presenting varied beauty. Unfortunately for us, the idea of 'normal' became different in the media than what the facts gave and, as we all know, the media can effortlessly cloud over the facts and tell us what it wants to say.
ALICE: Who inspires you in the world of body confidence and self-acceptance?
BECKAH: I'd say a lot of my inspiration comes from the people I follow on Instagram! Some of my favourites to follow are @bodyposipanda,@gracefvictory, @kenziebrenna, @calliethorpe and @ohhhhhhhhhoney. They are all unapologetically themselves, and I love them for that! I've also recently started following Love My Chub Club - they are an Instagram account dedicated to celebrating fat bodies and I love when one of their pictures pops up on my feed.
There's a long way to go for Instagram, or perhaps it's at a steady level that it will now stay at. Only time will tell.
ALICE: Those accounts are amazing! It's so important to see many people sharing such impactful content. I'd also like to add in @chessiekingg, @em_clarkson, and @maryscupofteaa to that list as well as showing my praise to brands such as Gillette, Monki, and Dove for making it part of their mission to advertise using real women and help normalise the real normal.
There's a long way to go for Instagram, or perhaps it's at a steady level that it will now stay at. Only time will tell.
Tell me one thing you love about yourself in the comments below.
Aside from wearing my midi skirts relentlessly and continuing my undying love for them, I got up to a few other interesting things in London on my recent trip.
With my sister living in London, we hitched on the back of their accommodation and ended up with a fairly cheap stay in the big town meaning, luckily for us, we had more money to spend on great food and drinks. And this, we did!
We spent 2 of our 3 nights in Islington, enjoying the local town and being amazed at how much it really doesn't feel like London. The other night was spent in central, dipping our toes in the tourist pond. The entire time we were there, the temperature was above 30 degrees so midi skirts became my best friends and, after a long day of walking around, we all slept like logs. Nevertheless, it was a wonderful trip; here's what we got up to.
While I was running around the city streets, I decided to capture little moments of the trip and create an IGTV video to share with you all as well as keep as a little memory keep-sake. You can watch that above.
DAY ONE (0.00) We explored Ridley Road Market and the bizzare wonders that come with it (as well as funky smells) then stopped off at Cafe Route for an iced coffee and cake. This day was HOT so we just had to take it easy to tollerate the temp. After cleaning up and changing into lighter clothes, we headed into central. First it was drinks at the wonderful Zedel, then Salvador and Amanda, topped off with food at Covent Garden's Masala Zone. All three were wonderful! After a stroll around covent garden and Summerset House, it was home for rest.
DAY TWO (1.44) One of my favourite parts of this day was seeing the wonderful Columbia Road Flower Market followed by a look down Brick Lane, leading us to amazing breakfast at Blanchette. After more Brick Lane wondering, we headed to Hyde Park with the original intention of going on the pedal boats but actually just ending up lounging on the grass under the sunshine. The long day of walking around in the sun ended with cocktails in Dirty Martini and classic pizzas in Pizza Express.
DAY THREE (4.32) Starting at Camden Lock, we grabbed breakfast then headed for a day at London Zoo - something I've never done before. I'm always eager to see animals so this was great fun. We finished the trip with more martinis (we loved it there), and a 3 course meal in a wonderful french bistro, Le Sacre Coure.
And that sums it up! The best 3 days I've ever spent in London with such little anxiousness and very fond memories to look back on. I can definitely see myself visiting more and more now that I've overcome any reservations, so do leave your East London recommendations below!
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